After traumatic events, men often create a protective persona to shield them from anyone getting close to them ever again. This persona quickly overshadows the person you once were and becomes the lens through which you see life. It prevents you from trusting people, excelling at work, building genuine friendships, and establishing other authentic relationships.

If you are a man who has lived through trauma, take a moment and reflect on how often you feel some or all of the following throughout your day:

Emotional Turmoil: The whirlwind of emotions post-trauma make you feel overwhelmed, lost or helpless.

Suppressed Feelings: Societal expectations have forced you to bury your feelings deeply, exacerbating your internal struggle.

Isolation: The journey post-trauma has felt incredibly lonely, intensifying your feelings of despair and hopelessness.

Lack of Guidance: Without a helping hand or a listening ear, the path to healing seems blurred and unreachable.

Societal Pressure: The societal stereotype of men being the “strong” ones adds an additional burden, hindering your healing.

Repetitive Negative Feelings: You find yourself in a pattern of feeling worthless at the same times of the week, month or year.

An Inability to Find Joy: You feel like you have a sign on your back that says, “Abuse me,” and you cannot find happiness in life or relationships.

Men with past trauma can also become abusers themselves (though in different and more subtle ways). The only way to break this cycle is to heal those like us who have been abused.

This is no way to live. You deserve to break your trauma's stranglehold on you, have deeper, more meaningful relationships, and find your dream partner.

You deserve to have your happily ever after.